Ringing the gong

Spending time at the local range

I have to admit that during my time in the army, I really enjoyed the time spent on the firing range. Now, I haven't done any target shooting for a long time, but it's something that I've recently gotten back into. It's also something my youngest son wanted to try, so we've been spending time at the local rifle range in Terrace.

At the back of the small-bore range, a steel gong has been set up at a distance of about one hundred yards. It's not all that easy to hit considering that we're shooting a .22 caliber rifle without the aid of a scope. Nonetheless, my son likes to try to hit it.

To be honest, it's not really about target shooting. It's about being an involved father and acknowledging the role fathers play in the healthy development of their children. With June 19 being Father's Day this year, it's an important topic to talk about.

Being an involved father takes work, but the impact you have on your child's life is huge. To be an involved father takes consistency, compassion, attention, and time. However, it's worth the effort.

• Children of involved fathers develop better social skills and ways to cope with the emotional stresses of life. Involved fathers can teach their children how to develop empathy and strong friendships. These skills last a lifetime and help children learn how to build successful relationships.
• Involved fathers bolster their child's cognitive development. They help their children develop critical thinking skills, motivation, communication skills, and a sense of independence that will benefit them throughout their lifetimes.
• Involved fathers provide a good role model for their children. Having a good role model can help children stay clear of problems with the law or issues with substance abuse.
• Not only do children benefit from involved fathers, but the relationship between father and mother can benefit as well. I'm sure you've heard that old saying about a happy wife.

Find fun ways to connect with your children

While I mentioned that being an involved father takes work, it's important to remember that you also need to find some fun ways to connect with your children. Put on a cape and become a sidekick for your superhero son. Grab an apron and join your daughter's tea party. Find a way to be a part of your child's world.

Last time we went to the range, my son loaded ten rounds and told me that he was going to shoot all of them at the gong. After he hit it on the first shot, he looked at me, smiled slightly and raised one finger. When he raised five fingers, his smile was a little bigger.

I have to admit; at this point, I thought I was doing a good job with teaching him to shoot.

However, speaking as a father, I know it won't always be this way. You won't always hit the target, let alone the bulls-eye. There will be times when you're tired, frustrated and bewildered. Fatherhood can be trying.

Still, there will be many more times when you do hit the bulls-eye. There will be moments that make you smile and realize that being a father is one of the greatest joys a man can experience.

Like when my son raised 10 fingers and gave me one of the biggest smiles I'd ever seen.

So on this Father's Day, go out and make a few more of those moments to cherish.