Caring for yourself
When we hear "invest in your relationships" - or even just the word relationship - most think that it involves a connection with another person. But have you ever thought about the relationship you have with yourself?
It has probably been some time since you "checked in" with yourself. In this busy world, it's not uncommon to forget about you and how to care for yourself - even though it can be the most important thing you do since life begins with you!
I recently became single following a very long-term relationship. Through my healing, I have realized that I completely lost myself to my relationship and I didn't even know who I was anymore, nor did I really like who I had become. I did not love myself anymore.
Loving yourself is essential to a healthy lifestyle and being able to maintain healthy relationships. Putting effort into yourself - investing in you - is just as important as working on any relationship! Loving who you are creates a whole new world for you. It allows you to accept you for who you are, gives you confidence, lets you look and feel better, improves self-esteem and makes you a happier person overall. Love starts with you and, from there, it can flourish into beautiful, meaningful relationships.
Over the past few months, I have been re-building me, learning to love myself again and finding happiness. This is what I have learned from it:
- Believe in yourself. Believing in you creates opportunities for success, allows you to accept who you are, and builds confidence. A positive attitude of "I can do this" opens doors for achievements you may have doubted and it creates determination within yourself that anything is possible. This may sound scary as it forces you to put yourself out there, push your comfort levels and makes you vulnerable - there is a risk of failure or a setback. But that is what makes us stronger! By not believing in yourself, you may be holding yourself back. Trust yourself and be the best you can be. Know that you are beautiful inside and out.
- Stay true to who you are. Stay true to what makes you uniquely you - whether that be a quirky trait, an unusual way of eating, singing in the shower or the way you do your hair. This is what makes you, you. Be honest with yourself, recognize what you value, and believe in your morals. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
- Build support networks. Support is so important in life. Bring people into your life who you can trust: family, friends, health care professionals, community services or organizations. You also have to allow people to support you. Take them up on their offers, whether it's a coffee date, a chat or a kind gesture. Your support systems are what hold you up in troubled times. They are a shoulder to cry on, ears that listen, and somebody who can just hold space with you and validate your thoughts, emotions and feelings. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are.
- Take time for you. Self-care is a staple to being able to love yourself. Practicing self-care is good for your emotional health, mind and soul. Self-care can improve your energy, efficacy and help you maintain a healthy relationship with yourself. Practicing self-care can be done in many ways such as taking some quiet alone time (think: going for walk, reading or having a bath), pampering yourself with a spa at home or at a salon, participating in a sporting event, treating yourself with a favourite food, or simply just spending time with you. Taking time for yourself also allows you to get to know yourself better and to be in touch with yourself more.
- Get back to your roots. Do you still do the things you "used" to do all the time? Take some time to think about what used to make you happy, like an old hobby or tradition. Bring these back into your life and share them with family and friends. Bringing back these happy times reminds us of who we are and where we came from.
For me, this learning curve has been an adventure that has been scary, exciting, and so rewarding. It hasn't been easy in any way but I believe that overall, it has made me a better person - to myself and to others.
A healthy sense of self is essential for your well-being. Take the time to invest in you: be easy and kind to yourself. You are worth it.